Anger as manipulation
DAILY READINGS
From Mother Radha's recordings of Swamiji
673
The difference between human beings and the deities is that humans say, 'I like this and I don't like that,' but the deities will straight away say, 'I like this.' If you say, 'I do not like that,' they will keep quiet; they never say they do not like something.
Women are not supposed to get angry too quickly. Anger can be shown in many different ways. Anger is a thing that blackmails the husbands. If you lovingly get angry it is just as good as getting hatefully angry – you should not get angry.
Now, the husbands, even in words, should try to please their wives. The wives too in thought, word and deed should try to please the husbands.
Life is not a play. It is said: 'But once only you will pass on the face of this Earth' – after that you are gone. Who knows when you will come next? Maybe your husband will be a demon and you will be a demoness. Perhaps you will not have the opportunity to practise what you can practise now as a human being.
Sri Sarada Devi's life was full of trials and tribulations from the beginning. She went through more difficulties than an ordinary wife goes through today and yet she remained calm. She never became angry.
Sri Ramakrishna said to one of his nephews, 'In this [meaning himself] if something gets angry it is nothing; but in that body [meaning Sri Sarada Devi] if that thing gets angry, even Brahma, Vishnu and Mahesh [Shiva] cannot save you.'
It was she that made him great. It was she that told him, 'I have come to help you, not to bring you down.' He surrendered like a true bhakta [devotee] to a goddess and said, 'Look I am your husband, do what you like to me.' And she, just like a true goddess, said, 'Nay, I have manifested myself as vidya maya not avidya maya. I have come here to uplift you and not to bring you down.'
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